Does a Good Relationship Go Hand in Hand With a Healthy Lifestyle?

Is there ever a clear answer? I think not. Then again, in this case, I have to say that, technically, a good relationship does not (necessarily) go hand in hand with a healthy lifestyle. The relationship can be as healthy as it wants to be. I am perfectly happy with my boyfriend when we are eating fried food and ice cream. I don’t mind that he is a little chubby; I kind of even like it. But, I don’t think he would feel the same about me. Plus, I have to say, I would not want him to be too chubby. So, that leads me to the conclusion that, though a good relationship may not (necessarily) go hand in hand with a healthy lifestyle, it is safe to assume that a healthy lifestyle (usually) goes hand in hand with good relationship. That is, if you are in a relationship. It may just be healthier not to be in one…just saying.

So, to reiterate, while a good relationship and a healthy lifestyle are not directly correlated, they are usually indirectly correlated. That is, although a bad relationship does not make for a bad lifestyle or vice-versa, if you add a third factor, physical attractiveness (whatever that may be for you), they do end up on the same end of the spectrum. For example: if your lifestyle becomes unhealthy (lifestyle having a direct correlation with attractiveness) and you become unattractive, it will always, in some way, affect your relationship. Hence, unhealthy lifestyle = worsened relationship. However, it can go the other way too. If you have a bad relationship, but you suddenly adopt a healthy lifestyle, making you more physically attractive, then your relationship status is at least in some way positively affected. This one is a little shakier though, because it can also worsen the relationship, especially if there is jealousy or promiscuity involved.

So, assuming there is at least some factual basis of the correlation between relationship and lifestyle status, the next question is: how tight is the correlation? Well, as I have proven…not very…yet. It usually is though. That is, if you add another factor: personal preferences. I know there are a lot of fetishes out there. There are preferences. People like different types of people: large, skinny, in between, toned, soft, rock hard, in between, vegans, vegetarians, omnivores, carnivores, people with healthy poop, people with unhealthy poop (yeah, that’s pretty uncommon), and in between. And those are just the attributes of a healthy/unhealthy lifestyle. But that is what we are addressing here. So, with the variables of person-specific attraction, we can tie relationship status’ directly (well, indirectly) to lifestyle status’.

For the sake of originality, let’s go first with the person who likes very large men. This person’s relationship status would go hand in hand with lifestyle. This would commonly require an unhealthy lifestyle for his/her partner. It would be the other way around for a person who desired a smaller partner. Generally, this would be a tight correlation.

I have to admit though; there are so many variables involved that there is no concrete answer here. A person may be able to eat ANYTHING and never exercise and remain attractive (oooh, I hate them already), therefore negating a correlation between the relationship and lifestyle. However, the ‘attractiveness’ variable can be replaced by another variable if their partner not only wants them to be attractive, but also wants them to eat and live healthfully. Then again, perhaps it is the same variable if their partner finds it attractive when this lifestyle is followed. Maybe, they like their partner in a diabetic coma from low blood sugar…no, I think that’s a whole another fetish which we sooo don’t have time to discuss right now. I have some standards.

Another wrench I have to throw into the gears is the fact that the desires of both people have to be compatible. We’ve all fallen in lust with someone that we know would never be interested in little (or big) old (or young) us. Someone can have a healthy, or unhealthy lifestyle as they want, but if we don’t have the one they want, it will affect our relationship (or lack of one). The Rock is ohhhhh, so fine, but there’s no way he would turn my way with the healthfulness (or, again, lack of) of the lifestyle I lead. Then again, that very could always change if I thought I had a chance…which in itself brings out another variable.

Other factors for healthy relationship and lifestyle may include mental health, emotional health, life circumstances, and physical health. A person may spend all their time eating and living healthily but any one of these may affect the result of that lifestyle. So, then the question here is, is their partner looking for a certain type of lifestyle, or are they looking for a certain result from that lifestyle? If they are simply looking for the first option, then these variables may be irrelevant to them.

Now that I have vented some of my pessimistic arguments here, I will now turn to the variables that can have a little pull on the relationship and negate some of the influences of (or lack of) attraction through health. For example, loyalty, personality, and length of relationship can influence both the relationship and the lifestyle, but not necessarily both at the same time. So what if, 10 years from now my boyfriend will have gained 50 lbs, or 100 lbs. By then, his personality will have grown on me, he will have earned my loyalty and I may figure, I’ve been with him this long, no sense in going anywhere now. Will this affect our relationship? Maybe. But not as much as it would have in the beginning. Would it affect our lifestyle? Well, yeah, I’d probably be nagging him to run laps or have a sort of jogging workout. But again, I will have accepted him and may not push quite as hard.

So does a good relationship go hand in hand with a healthy lifestyle? Yes, sometimes. No, not all the time. Sorta, yeah. But all evidence considered, with all the variables that need to be taken into account, the definitive answer must be no.
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